In response to Jim Adams’s Friday Faithfuls
Prompt: Kiss
Welcome back to the Friday Faithfuls challenge where I have lost touch with my audience over the last few weeks, but I am going to make that up to you by giving you a topic that everyone should know, as kissing is described as the most intimate human experience. You can respond by writing about your first kiss, or a kiss that went horribly wrong, or how you like being kissed, or if you think it is wrong to kiss and tell, or kissing the Blarney Stone, the kiss of death, kissing someone’s ring, kissing frogs to find your prince, or anything else that you feel fits.
The Smallest Doorway (With the Biggest Drama)
Once upon a time, there was a village where people didn’t say goodbye. Not because they were emotionally evolved. No. They were just… dramatic in a tasteful way.
They believed “goodbye” sounded too final, like a door slam, or like your phone battery dying at 2% with no charger in sight.
So instead, when someone left, the elders would place a tiny dot of paint on the traveller’s forehead.
Just one dot.
It meant…
You were here. You mattered. You belong. Please don’t forget us when you become successful and start buying fancy olives.
Years later, when travellers returned, older, wiser, slightly more disappointed by adulthood, the elders didn’t ask where they’d been or what they’d seen.
They just touched that same spot again. No speeches, awkward questions. No “So… how’s life?” Just contact.
Because the body understands something the mind takes years to admit.
touch is language.
touch is memory.
touch is reassurance.
And in the modern world, we have our own version of that ritual. A tiny, powerful, confusing, electrifying human phenomenon.
A kiss.
A Kiss Isn’t Just Romance. It’s a Full System Update.
People treat kissing like it’s only about love. Sure, sometimes it is. But if we’re being honest, a kiss is also:
a greeting
a goodbye
a peace treaty
a plot twist
a motivational speech
a “you’re not dead yet” check-in
a “stop talking, I’m trying to feel something” moment
And occasionally…a mistake.
A kiss is basically the most intimate way humans say:
“Let me bring my nervous system close to your nervous system and see what happens.”
Which is a sentence that sounds romantic until you read it twice.
The Neuroscience: Why a Kiss Feels Like Sorcery
A kiss is tiny. But inside your head? It’s a fireworks show with paperwork.
1) Your brain lights up like a festival
Kissing activates touch, smell, taste, emotion, anticipation, memory, multiple systems at once.
So while you think you’re just kissing a person, your brain is going…
“ALERT: HUMAN CONTACT.
POSSIBLE SOULMATE.
POSSIBLE BAD DECISION.
RUN COMPATIBILITY CHECK.”
2) Dopamine: the “I want more” chemical
Dopamine isn’t just pleasure. It’s the brain’s way of saying:
“This is important. Repeat immediately. Cancel all responsibilities.”
That’s why a great kiss doesn’t simply make you happy. It makes you stupid in a charming way.
3) Oxytocin: the emotional glue
Oxytocin is associated with bonding and trust.
Which is why kissing can be dangerously effective. You kiss someone and suddenly you’re like:
“I have known you for 14 minutes, but I would like to emotionally adopt you.”
And your brain is like: “Yes. We are now a unit.”
Meanwhile your rational mind is in the corner whispering: “Please. Not again.”
4) Your nervous system is secretly doing math
Here’s the weirdest part. Kissing is also a biological interview. Your brain is collecting data through scent, taste, rhythm, pressure, timing. It’s like a resume review, but with lips.
Sometimes you can admire someone, even want them…and then the kiss happens and your whole body goes: “No ❤️”
That’s not you being picky. That’s your nervous system politely declining.
A Kiss Is a Memory Hack. Some memories don’t live in words. They live in, smell, temperature, closeness, timing, the pause before it happened
That’s why you might forget the conversation. But you remember the kiss. Because a kiss is not just an action. It’s a timestamp. Before…After. And if it was a really good kiss?
Your brain will store it in the same folder as, childhood comfort, favourite songs, the smell of rain, winning something you didn’t expect to win
The Many Secret Lives of a Kiss
This is where it gets interesting, because kissing isn’t one thing. It’s a word that wears many costumes.
1) A kiss as a contract
Not legal. Nervous-system legal. A kiss can be an agreement that says: “We are crossing a line.”
Even if nobody says it out loud.
2) A kiss as translation
Some feelings are too big for language. A kiss is what happens when words fail and the heart goes: “Fine. I’ll speak directly.”
3) A kiss as a risk
Kissing is consent + timing + vulnerability. You’re letting someone into your space, your breath, your scent.
It’s basically saying: “Here I am, unedited.” And that’s why people get nervous. A kiss isn’t scary because it’s intimate. A kiss is scary because it’s revealing.
4) A kiss as a lie detector
You can fake confidence. You can fake charm. But a kiss has a way of exposing the truth, because the body doesn’t always cooperate with the story you’re trying to tell.
5) A kiss as grief
Sometimes kisses don’t begin things. They end them. A goodbye kiss isn’t romance. It’s the human version of trying to soften a heartbreak with tenderness.
6) A kiss as routine
This one is criminally underrated. The forehead kiss. The quick kiss before leaving. The half-asleep kiss.
Routine kisses are not boring. They are the kisses that say: “I choose you even when life is laundry and traffic.”
7) A kiss as power
Not all kisses are sweet. Some are about control, performance, possession, manipulation. Which is why kisses can be psychologically intense. They can be a gift, or a weapon.
8) A kiss as resurrection
One kiss can restart a relationship. It can remind two people: “Oh. It’s still you.” Sometimes the mouth reconciles before the ego is ready.
Why Humans Keep Coming Back to It
We live in an age where we text affection, emoji intimacy, and send voice notes instead of eye contact. A kiss is stubbornly old-school.
It cannot be automated, multitasked, and cannot be faked for long. A kiss demands presence. And presence is a rare luxury now.
Which is why a kiss still feels dramatic. Not because we are dramatic but because our nervous systems are starving.
The Most Human Truth About Kissing
A kiss is not just lips meeting. It’s the moment when two people decide: “For a second, I will stop being separate.”
That’s why kisses can be, holy, hilarious, awkward, tender, messy, healing, devastating, unforgettable, because they touch the deepest human hunger, to be met. Not admired, tolerated, and scrolled past.
But actually met.
A Kiss Is a Question
Every kiss asks something. Sometimes it asks: “Do you want me?” Sometimes: “Are we okay?”
Sometimes: “Will you stay?”
And sometimes it asks the most vulnerable question of all: “Can I come closer… and still be safe?”
And that’s why kisses matter. Not because they’re perfect, but because they’re honest. In a world full of noise, a kiss is one of the few things that is both, silent and impossible to ignore.
So yes, kissing isn’t “just” a kiss. It’s a full neurological event disguised as a casual moment. It’s basically human Wi-Fi…sometimes it’s instant connection, full bars, life-changing signal… and sometimes it buffers awkwardly and you both suddenly remember you left the stove on.
A kiss is also the only performance review you can deliver without speaking, one says “Five stars, would recommend,” another says “Thank you for your time, we’ll be moving forward with other candidates.”
And if it’s truly spectacular, don’t worry, your logic will return eventually… right after your heart finishes writing poetry, your dignity finishes packing its bags, and your self-respect files a formal complaint from a safe distance.
A kiss – the mouth’s way of making bad decisions feel spiritual.
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